One of the most confusing psychological effects of war is this: Life doesn’t fully stop.
But it doesn’t feel normal either.

In Lebanon and the wider region today, many people are living in two realities at the same time. On one hand, there are responsibilities - work, family, routines, social interactions. On the other, there is ongoing threat, uncertainty, and exposure to violence destruction.

This creates a psychological split.

People find themselves switching between functioning and distress, sometimes within the same hour. You might be focused in a meeting, then suddenly distracted by news. You might be laughing with friends, then feel a wave of guilt or unease for doing so.

This is not inconsistency. It is adaptation to conflicting realities.

One of the most common reactions in this state is guilt: guilt for continuing daily life while others are suffering more directly; guilt for moments of enjoyment; guilt for “not being affected enough” - or for being affected too much.

This type of guilt is rarely discussed, but it has a real impact. It prevents people from fully resting, disconnecting, or allowing themselves moments of relief. It keeps the nervous system in a loop of tension, even when there is no immediate threat.

Another reaction is emotional fragmentation.

Instead of feeling one clear emotional state, people experience conflicting emotions at once:
relief and fear; gratitude and anger; hope and resignation.

This can feel disorienting. Many people interpret it as instability, when in reality it reflects the complexity of the situation.

There is also a subtle but important shift in how people relate to the future.

In stable environments, people plan ahead with a sense of continuity. In unstable environments, the future becomes uncertain, and planning starts to feel either pointless or overwhelming. This can lead to short-term thinking, hesitation in decision-making, or a sense of being “paused” in life.

So how do you navigate this?

First, stop expecting emotional consistency. Mixed emotions are not a problem to solve, they are a reflection of reality.

Second, remove judgment from moments of relief. Feeling okay, even briefly, does not mean you are ignoring what’s happening. It means your system is regulating.

Third, anchor yourself in small, controllable decisions. When the larger future feels unstable, focus on what is within reach - today’s structure, conversations, and actions.

Finally, talk about what feels contradictory. The unspoken part - the guilt, the confusion, the emotional conflict - is often where the real pressure builds.

A structured space, like therapy, allows these contradictions to exist without needing to resolve them immediately.

You are not living a normal life in a normal environment. So, your internal experience will not feel normal or consistent. And that is not something to fix. It is something to understand - so it doesn’t shape how you live.


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Article by:
Ghinwa Chaccour

Head of Therapy